I mention, often, how we need to love ourselves first. However, I know at times, finding self love or realizing we deserve it is not easy.
l walked around for a long time searching for it outside of me. When I thought I had found it, it was only a temporary fix. Then my unhappiness would set in and I'd search again. Basically, I set myself up for failure each time. How can I let someone love me in a healthy way if I didn't love all of me first?
It wasn't until I started working on me that I found all that I was searching for. Yes, inside, which has led me in finding a healthy love relationship with another.
So start somewhere in you. Find one place you love about you and allow the love of self to flow from there.